Community guidelines
Last updated 14 July 2026
The short version: be yourself, respect the women in the room, curate your own space, and help keep the door working. Everything below is that, spelled out.
The community keeps this a safe space
There's no algorithm deciding what you see and no growth team optimizing for outrage. What keeps tendril good is the members: you review the people who ask to join, you report what crosses a line, and you shape the conversations you're part of. This page is the deal we all make with each other.
Be yourself
Use your real self, not a persona. Tendril is a space for women, and admission rests on members vouching for each other. Don't impersonate anyone, and don't help someone slip past the door. Accounts that misrepresent who they are get frozen.
Respect other members
Disagree all you like; it may get loud, and that's fine. But go after the idea, not the person. No harassment, no pile-ons, no cruelty, no hate. If a thread makes you want to hurt someone rather than answer them, close the tab and come back later.
Privacy here is social, not technical
Every member is vetted by this community. But no setting on tendril can stop a member from screenshotting what you share and passing it along. Assume anything you post could travel beyond tendril, and share at the level of trust you actually have. Private accounts and follower approval narrow your audience; they don't make it airtight.
Curate your own space
Block and mute freely. Blocking isn't rude here; it's how you tend your own garden. You control who follows you, who replies to your posts, and whether replies need your approval. Use those controls instead of asking others to change.
No spam, no selling the room
Share your work, your projects, your links. But tendril isn't a growth channel: no bulk promotion, no affiliate flooding, no engagement bait. If most of your posts are asks, that's spam.
New members start with a welcome period
A new account can look around right away, but posting, replying, following, and messaging open once the community has welcomed you in: several members review each new arrival, and enough approvals unlock full access (a member's invite skips the wait entirely). It usually takes about a day. While you wait, explore and get a feel for the place.
Participate
This place runs on members showing up. Post, reply, welcome people. Most of all, when you're asked to review someone who wants to join, answer. Admissions only work when members vote, and a day of silence slows a real person's welcome.
What happens when rules break
Report anything that crosses these lines. A moderator reviews every report: posts can be hidden, and accounts can be frozen while something is investigated or removed for repeat or serious harm. Freezing errs on the side of the community, not the account.